

How to bring it up with your current partner The process of evaluating your desires and adjusting accordingly is ongoing. Keep in mind that it’s always possible to try out polyamory and decide it’s not for you. You and your partner(s) must have a genuine interest in exploring additional relationships for polyamory to work. Polyamory isn’t an easy fix for relationship problems or a way to justify cheating. Why are you interested in polyamory?ĭifferent people have different reasons for choosing polyamory - so what about it interests you? If you’ve got the capacity and interest for emotional connections with multiple people at once, that’s a good sign for your ability to practice polyamory. It can be a lot to handle emotional intimacy with even one person. Do you enjoy deep emotional connections with more than one person? If you prefer mixing things up with different types of sex with different types of people, then polyamory could be your thing. Monogamous couples can certainly spice things up with some variety in the bedroom, but some people desire more than monogamy can offer. But you might be more inclined to polyamory if you can be honest and communicative when you’re feeling jealous. It’s not true that polyamorous people don’t get jealous at all. How do you feel when you think about your partner being with someone else? To start figuring it out, try asking yourself these questions: How do you handle jealousy? So now that you know how it works, how do you know if polyamory is right for you? Respecting other people - including your partners’ partners - is key. It isn’t just about respecting your partner’s feelings to be with someone else. If someone considers your feelings unimportant, then a monogamous relationship with them isn’t going to work. Taking on new partners, engaging in new sex acts, and entering new commitments all requires consent for everyone involved. Of course, you can’t have consensual non-monogamy without consent.įor most people, polyamory isn’t simply a “free for all” to do whatever you want. Open, honest, and frequent communication is essential for maintaining multiple relationships in a healthy way. While there’s a popular idea that polyamory is all about sex, some polyamorous people joke that it’s more about talking about your feelings than anything else… because it’s kind of true. Some ways they might build trust include communicating about new partners, practicing safe sex, and keeping promises. Just like monogamous couples, polyamorous people need to be able to trust one another. While every polyamorous relationship is unique, people in healthy polyamorous relationships share many of the same values, including: Trust
